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Born This Way: Sympathy and Science for Those Who Want to Have Sex with Children
Cord Jefferson
gawker.com
It's not easy to listen to Terry talk about the time he had sex with a seven-year-old girl. But after his psychotherapist put us in touch, he agreed to lay it all out for me during a phone call and email, and I was enthralled the way one might stare at a man falling from a bridge. Terry is 38, a small-business owner, and deeply religious—he ends all our correspondence by saying, "Blessings to you, Cord"—but back then when it happened Terry was 20 and a meth head. He was living with his then-wife, his marriage to whom had made him the co-guardian of her two nieces and a nephew. The one niece was a baby, but the other was seven, and it wasn't long before Terry, addicted and in a marriage he calls "abusive," fell for his niece and began a sexual relationship with her.
It started with him walking around the house naked with an erection, making sure to amble past the little girl and inspire her curiosity. After doing that a couple times, Terry began to masturbate with the door open. When his niece would come to watch, Terry would tell her that what they were doing was a secret that she couldn't tell anyone. "In my mind, I had the thought that I would never hurt her and that she would grow up trusting me," Terry said. He says he wanted her to look up to him.
The third time Terry masturbated in front of his niece, he did it while she was in the room, and he played a pornographic movie on the TV. "Do you want to try what they're doing?" he asked her, motioning to the woman riding the man onscreen. His niece said yes, and she took off her shorts before straddling him. To avoid getting too graphic, Terry said he knew almost immediately that he was going to injure the girl if he went any further—"she was so small," is how he puts it. "That's when the reality clicked in and I grabbed her and lifted her off of me and sat her next to me on the couch," he says. "I got up and walked out of the room saying, ‘Lord, what am I doing! Lord, forgive me for what I have done!'"
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When Penn State football coach Jerry Sandusky was arrested last year and charged with 52 counts of molesting young boys, America's universal hatred for pedophiles was once again put on prominent display. A society is defined by what it despises as much as what it loves, and though the United States has a history of a great many scorned communities, none is as broadly reviled as men who have sex with children. When Sandusky was finally convicted earlier this year, Twitter exploded with people wishing for him to be raped or killed while incarcerated, both of which are good possibilities in our country's prison system. Outside of jail, it's not uncommon for average citizens to harass and assault pedophiles, crimes which courts have been known to ignore.
Then there's the problem of finding homes for pedophiles who are arrested and eventually put back into communities. In Florida, where Miami-Dade County has grown increasingly restrictive about where people who commit sexual crimes can live, the department of corrections once housed a small group of pedophiles under a bridge, like real-life trolls. Elsewhere in America, with neighborhoods both informed and alarmed by a growing number of sex-offender tracking sites, it's now become easier than ever to harass and intimidate a pedophile in your neighborhood until he moves away. But to where? Nobody seems to care as long as it's not near them.
In an ABC News article from 2003, a corrections officer from Los Angeles told reporter Michael S. James that imprisoned pedophiles "usually don't make it" without protective custody. Leslie Walker, a prisoner's rights activist, told James, "[Child sex offenders] are at risk of being murdered, having their food taken, having their cells defecated and urinated in. Their life is truly a living hell." Good, most people will say. But there is a growing number of researchers, many of them out of Canada, whose work suggests that pedophilia is an illness deserving of the public's sympathy the way any brain disorder is. Some of the scientists say pedophilia is a sexual orientation, meaning that it's unchangeable, regardless of how much jail time or beatings or therapy someone is dealt. Others have reason to believe that pedophiles are born that way, and that some of them will suffer through entire lives without hurting a single child. If this research proves to be correct, it should help shape both our public policy and our public attitude, so that we're protecting kids while also protecting pedophiles from angry mobs, cellmates, and themselves.
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On Valentine's Day of last year, Dr. Vernon Quinsey, then of Queen's University, and Dr. Hubert Van Gijseghem (pronounced HI-sheh-hem), who was retired from the University of Montreal, testified before the Canadian Parliament's "Committee on Justice and Human Rights." The topic of the day was mandatory minimum sentences for people convicted of sexual offenses against children. For about two hours, Quinsey and Van Gijseghem discussed what they believed would be the appropriate course of action when it came to imprisoning people caught with child pornography, or attempting to have sex with a minor. Though the topic of conversation was particularly controversial, the meeting was pleasant and kind in that stereotypically Canadian way. But amid all the niceties about policy, this, from Dr. Van Gijseghem, stood out:
| Quote: | | It is a fact that real pedophiles account for only 20 percent of sexual abusers. If we know that pedophiles are not simply people who commit a small offence from time to time but rather are grappling with what is equivalent to a sexual orientation just like another individual may be grappling with heterosexuality or even homosexuality, and if we agree on the fact that true pedophiles have an exclusive preference for children, which is the same as having a sexual orientation, everyone knows that there is no such thing as real therapy. You cannot change this person's sexual orientation. |
What Van Gijseghem meant by "real pedophiles" is the definition most of the scientists I spoke to use and the definition we'll use throughout this article. That is, people—the overwhelming majority of whom are men—who have an unwavering sexual attraction to prepubescent children. When you start to read a lot about pedophilia, you realize that the dialogue gets muddied because so many laymen use the term "pedophile" to mean anyone who sexualizes a child. But a 21-year-old who has intercourse with a 16-year-old, while not a good decision maker, is probably not a pedophile. Nor is someone who, say, exposes himself to a 5-year-old boy necessarily a pedophile. They may have committed a pedophilic act, but unless they have a clear preference for undeveloped children the way heterosexual men have for women, they are not pedophiles.
Some pedophiles will suffer through entire lives without hurting a single child.
Van Gijseghem and Quinsey's point on that afternoon in February was also one of semantics. When I call Van Gijseghem in the middle of August, he tells me that he got a lot of hate mail from people who thought him using the term "sexual orientation" meant he was equating raping children with consensual sex between adults. "They said, ‘You bastard! You are treating pedophilia like a normal human function,'" says Van Gijseghem. "I can understand these criticisms, but I'm not using the term sexual orientation to mean that at all."
Van Gjiseghem says what he and his colleagues mean by sexual orientation is a person's inborn and unalterable sexual preference, irrespective of whether that preference is harmful to others or not. Currently, there is no significant longitudinal evidence that pedophiles can be made to not be attracted to children, and thus it can be defined as their orientation. And if pedophilia is a sexual orientation, that also means it's futile to send pedophiles to prison in an effort to alter their attractions. Doing so is akin to sending a homosexual child off to a religious-based institution that claims it can "pray the gay away."
"You are telling me that even if we were to impose a five-year minimum on people it would not solve the problem," asked a concerned Marc Lemay, an MP from Quebec, during the February testimony. "Yes, the risk is high," said Van Gijseghem. Lemay would later say, "What you are telling us today, with all due respect, is frightening."
Something that might help mitigate Lemay's fright is that viewing pedophilia as a sexual orientation might help us rationally deal with it. In his January 2012 paper "Is Pedophilia a Sexual Orientation?" published in the journal Archives of Sexual Behavior, forensic psychologist Michael Seto writes, "Viewing pedophilia as a sexual orientation would suggest that treatment is more likely to be effective if it focuses on self-regulation skills (in order to effectively manage pedophilic urges, thoughts, etc.) than on trying to change sexual preferences."
In other words, if you can't beat pedophiles, it's best to try and help them help themselves.
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Imagine a world in which admitting your attraction to busty women or tall men led to alienation, jail time, or your murder. Older gay men can probably remember such an era, but nowadays most sexual appetites have been mainstreamed to the point of banality. Pedophiles, for obvious reasons, don't enjoy the same kind of tolerance, and thus it seems as if they may be locked forever in a sexual prison from the moment they're born.
Dr. James Cantor is the Head of Research in the Sexual Behaviours Clinic at the Centre for Addiction and Mental Health, Canada's largest mental health and teaching hospital. He's also an associate professor of psychiatry at the University of Toronto's school of medicine. He's been working on better understanding pedophiles for about 12 years now using a variety of methods. In the Kurt Freund Phallometric Lab, Cantor and his colleagues can attach an instrument to sex offenders' penises in order to gauge their responses to a variety of sexually charged images. The Freund lab, Cantor tells me during a phone call last week, is one of the few in the world that can measure increases in penis volume rather than just increases in circumference.
Cantor's work also focuses on running sex offenders through what he calls "a battery of neuropsychological exams," and brain scans on top of that, thus providing one of science's most well-rounded looks at how a pedophile is made. That there are a lot of unanswered questions in Cantor's field of research can't be overstated, but his initial findings are noteworthy.
Cantor says his first indication that there was something different about pedophiles' brains was that, compared to teleiophile offenders (sex offenders who victimized adults), pedophiles' IQs were about 10 points lower on average. He also found that the age of a pedophile's victim was directly proportional to the pedophile's IQ—the younger the children, the lower the attacker's intelligence. "That was our first clue that the brain was somehow involved," says Cantor, adding that pedophiles also performed relatively poorly on memory tests.
Other patterns soon emerged: Pedophiles tended to be shorter than teleiophiles, which Cantor says told him "whatever's going on, it's not just the brain; it seems to be that the whole body isn't formed quite correctly." Pedophiles were more likely to have failed grades in school. They were also more likely to have sustained head injuries before the age of 13. All of this helped lead Cantor to the suspicion that not only did pedophilia have to do with brain growth, it had to do with very early brain growth. After several years of amassing a catalogue of intriguing research, in 2008, Cantor published a paper [PDF] about what he tells me was the last clue that made him almost certain pedophilia is a prenatal issue: non-right-handedness.
"Handedness is often a useful indirect way of looking at a population and getting an idea of whether the brain formed properly," says Cantor. "Normally the left half of the brain develops more quickly and earlier than the other hemisphere of the brain, and that's what makes most people right-handed. But if something happens during development in utero—poor nutrition, prenatal stress, that kind of thing—the brain stops developing, so the other side of the brain starts to compensate."
In the general population, only about 8 to 12 percent of people are either not right-handed or ambidextrous. In Cantor's pedophile studies, nearly one third of the men were non-right-handed.
"The only other groups that have rates of non-right-handedness that are that high are schizophrenics, people with bipolar disorder, people with autism," says Cantor. "Other major behavioral disorders for which there is no longer any debate that there is some physiological contribution. The only thing that affects handedness is the brain structure."
With that as his last finding, Cantor felt he had enough evidence to justify scanning pedophiles' brains to see how they differed from average brains. Before he started performing the scans, he'd heard two dominating theories: The first was that pedophiles had an issue with their frontal lobes, the part of the brain where consciousness and self-control functioning is held. People with damaged frontal lobes tend to be more disinhibited and impulsive than the rest of us, which might lead a person to make terrible sexual decisions. But Cantor says he never agreed with that theory, because he never believed pedophilia was about suppressing urges. "If you ask any guy on the street how he controls his desire to have sex with children, he'll look at you like you have three heads," he says. "Most men don't have that desire to control."
The other school of thought said that pedophilia was the result of a problem with the temporal lobe, the section of the brain that controls our most basic survival motivators. Cantor calls them "the four Fs": feeding, flight, fighting, and fornicating. He says that if he had been forced to choose between the two theories, he would have chosen this one "because sex is in this mix." As it turned out, however, everyone was wrong.
"There was nothing significant in the frontal lobes or temporal lobes," says Cantor. "It turned out the differences weren't in the grey matter. The differences were in the white matter."
"The white matter" is the shorthand term for groupings of myelinated axons and glial cells that transmit signals throughout the gray matter that composes the cerebrum. Think of the gray matter like the houses on a specific electricity grid and the white matter like the cabling connecting those houses to the grid.
"There doesn't seem to be a pedophilia center in the brain," says Cantor. "Instead, there's either not enough of this cabling, not the correct kind of cabling, or it's wiring the wrong areas together, so instead of the brain evoking protective or parental instincts when these people see children, it's instead evoking sexual instincts. There's almost literally a crossed wiring."
The good news, according to Cantor, is that it if they can figure out how the wiring gets crossed, they might be able to suggest ways pregnant mothers can help ensure their baby is unlikely to be born a pedophile. "It is quite possible that one or more components of the process are related to prenatal stresses like poor maternal nutrition, toxin exposure, ill health, or poor health care," he says. "If so, then improving health and health care in general may reduce the numbers of people vulnerable to developing pedophilia, as well as other problems."
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Every expert with whom I spoke wanted to get one thing straight: Being a pedophile is different from being a child molester. Sex-advice columnist Dan Savage, who occasionally fields letters from people fighting off pedophilic urges, calls these people "gold-star pedophiles." In April of this year, for instance, he got this letter from a man who was attracted to children but claimed to have never acted on that desire (emphasis Savage's):
| Quote: | | You know when Dan says to someone with a weird (to others) fetish, or some kind of physical peculiarity, or whatever, that they should "hold on, there's someone... plenty of someones... out there for you, give it time, put yourself out there," and so on? That doesn't apply to us. Not only should we not put ourselves out there... but I walk around every awful day of my life knowing that THERE IS NO ONE OUT THERE FOR ME. |
There are among us men who live their whole lives wanting to have sex with children but never doing it. America might have more of these men if we eased our taboos on anyone even admitting an attraction to kids. Consider that in Germany there is Prevention Project Dunkelfeld, an organization that, like a suicide hotline, offers free counseling to anyone struggling with thoughts of molesting a child. "Dunkelfeld" translates to "dark field," and PPD's founders say their goal is to make sure pedophiles come out of the shadows and get the help they need before they offend. A sample PPD tagline is representative of the kind of sympathy with which it approaches the problem: "You are not guilty because of your sexual desire, but you are responsible for your sexual behavior. There is help."
"You are not guilty because of your sexual desire, but you are responsible for your sexual behavior."
Canada, too, has Circles of Support and Accountability, an association of volunteers who are advised by professionals on how to help convicted sex offenders reacclimate to society. While some COSA programs are beginning to pop up around the States, we have not nearly as many as our northern neighbors, who originally concocted the COSA model. Further hindering America's progress are our "mandatory report" laws, some of which say that therapists are required to contact authorities if they have even a "reasonable suspicion" that a child is being mistreated somewhere. For example, California's mandatory report policy says very openly that "no evidence or proof is required prior to making a report" [PDF], making it perfectly acceptable to call the cops on a person solely for talking about sexual fantasies regarding children. Naturally, to avoid this alarmist scrutiny, most pedophiles sit silently on their secret desires, which is at best unhealthy for them, and at worst dangerous for children.
If we can get pedophiles to begin acknowledging their dangerous desires, experts like Dawn Horwitz-Person, a psychotherapist in Chico, California, who specializes in treating sex offenders, believes we can help pedophiles "learn how to manage their desires the way alcoholics do." Horwitz-Person focuses on a very 12-step-like manner of therapy and acceptance focusing not on changing pedophiles' basic desires, but "changing how they think about things." "I try to get them to develop empathy and to get them to recognize the risk factors in their life," she says. "I try to get them to understand that when they feed their brains a lot of deviant sexual fantasies, it's going to lead to them acting on those fantasies." There is no panacea, says Horwitz-Person, there is only process.
For parents wondering what to do while society and politicians get their ducks in a row when it comes to pedophiles, Dr. Cantor says that one important way to keep children safe is by disabusing them of the notion that strangers are the primary concern when it comes to molestation. "By far, the most common perpetrators of sex offenses against children are people known to the kid," he says. "Not talking to strangers is a good lesson for children, but then their guard is down to where the actual danger is."
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The old adage is that the true mark of a society is how it treats the weakest in its ranks. Blacks, women, Latinos, gays and lesbians, and others are still in no way on wholly equal footing in America. But they're also not nearly as lowly and cursed as men attracted to children. One imagines that if Jesus ever came to Earth, he'd embrace the poor, the blind, the lepers, and, yes, the pedophiles. As a self-professed "progressive," when I think of the world I'd like to live in, I like to imagine that one day I'd be OK with a man like Terry moving next door to me and my children. I like to think that I could welcome him in for dinner, break bread with him, and offer him the same blessings he's offered me time and again. And what hurts to admit, even knowing all I know now, is that I'm not positive I could do that. |
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Man sues dominatrix for hitting him too hard
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10th Oct 2012
A 49-year-old undertaker has sued a prostitute he regularly paid for sex, saying he didn't want to be whipped or have wax dripped on him. "I just wanted some erotic role-play, not to be dominated," said the 49-year-old undertaker.
He told a district court in Cologne that the dominatrix he hired did not let him go after the agreed-upon two hours, and held a kitchen knife to his throat while he was tied up on the bed, reported the Kölner Stadt Anzeiger. "She wanted my debit card and the PIN," the man said.
He claimed she became aggressive after using cocaine and forced him to swallow some as well, before calling a friend, who allegedly withdrew €980 with his card. The man travelled from a psychiatric institute to give his testimony and was accompanied by a psychiatrist.
“My clients pay me to hurt them,” the dominatrix told the court. She said he paid her €400 for the first two hours, but then he wanted her to stay longer, and told her to bring over a transsexual. She said she got his debit card and PIN to make sure she was paid. "I do this so often, I've had bad experiences," said the mother of four.
The court ruled that because both were found to have large amounts of cocaine in their blood, it was possible one or both of them were hallucinating, and it was impossible to know what really happened that night. The dominatrix was made to pay €200 to the "Weisser Ring," an aid organisation that helps victims of crime. |
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Man dismembered and cooked after sex games
25th January 2012
The dismembered, partially cooked corpse of a missing man has been found in a Berlin apartment, where prosecutors believe he was killed after a sex game spiralled out of control.
The BZ daily reported on Wednesday that the deceased, Carsten Srock, was found with his limbs expertly carved off with either an axe or large knife. The body pieces were then wrapped fastidiously in plastic bags and cling-wrap, and left to sit in the two-room flat for around three weeks. His head was found, partially cooked, by the police.
Prosecutors on the case told the BZ they believe the victim was “murdered for sexual pleasure.” Owner of the Mariendorf apartment is a 43-year-old man identified as Michael S., who was rescued by paramedics after trying to take his own life. The unemployed Berliner attempted to open a main vein, before calling the emergency services minutes after.
It was only upon the arrival of the paramedics that the gruesome truth began to come to light. The paramedics contacted the police, who arrived at the scene to find not only Michael S. bathed in blood, but the body parts of his occasional sexual partner Srock, dotted around the residence.
“Officials questioned the man in hospital,” a spokesman for the state prosecutors told the paper. During questioning Michael S. reportedly admitted to the murder. An warrant for his arrest was issued on Tuesday.
Srock was reported missing by his partner January 2. According to the gay news portal queer.de the bank manager, who reportedly worked part-time at a Berlin gay sauna called "Boiler", finished his shift behind the bar on the evening of New Years Day.
He then took out a large sum of money from a nearby cash point possibly to help Michael S. pay off debts, or to exchange for sex, reported the BZ. Srock then rang his partner to say that he had other arrangements and would not be returning home that night. The next day, his phone had been turned off.
“It did not take long for us to narrow the search down to the 43-year-old Michael S.,” a police spokesman told Die Welt newspaper. He also added that investigators had discovered that the pair had apparently agreed to partake in sex games beforehand.
An autopsy later confirmed that the two men had taken part in sexual activity together shortly before the murder. Exact time of death remains, however, unclear.
Berlin's gay community has been rocked by the revelations, which have sparked condolences on internet forums for the 37-year-old victim.
The gruesome incident is reminiscent of the murder committed in 2001 by Armin Meiwes, dubbed the "Cannibal from Rotenburg" for castrating, butchering and eating a man. After meeting a 43-year-old engineer from Berlin online, Meiwes and his victim agreed to the killing and cannibalism.
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Germany moves to ban bestiality
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28th November 2012
Germany's ruling coalition is calling for a ban on bestiality - or the practice of having sex with animals. The German parliament's agriculture committee is considering making it an offence not only to hurt an animal but also to force it into unnatural sex. Offenders could face a hefty fine. A final vote will be held in the Bundestag (lower house) on 14 December.
Germany legalised bestiality (zoophilia) in 1969, except when the animal suffered "significant harm". But animal rights groups have campaigned for a change in the law and Hans-Michael Goldmann, the head of the parliamentary committee investigating the new amendment, told the Tageszeitung newspaper that the new legislation was intended to clarify the current legal position. "With this explicit ban, it will be easier to impose penalties and to improve animal protection."
A fine of up to 25,000 euros (£20,000) is proposed if someone forces an animal to commit "actions alien to the species". But Michael Kiok, the chairman of the pressure group Zoophile Engagement for Tolerance and Information (Zeta), said he was going to take legal action to fight the proposed changes.
"It is unthinkable that any sexual act with an animal is punished without proof that the animal has come to any harm," he said, adding that animals are capable of showing what they do, or do not, want to do. We see animals as partners and not as a means of gratification. We don't force them to do anything. Animals are much easier to understand than women," Mr Kiok claimed.
Bestiality is banned in many European countries, including the Netherlands, France and Switzerland. The law was changed in the UK in 2003, which reduced the maximum sentence from life imprisonment to two years. The act however, is permissible in Belgium, Denmark and Sweden, though Stockholm is considering a change in the legislation. |
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Masturbation Contest In China Held To Celebrate Safe Sex On World AIDS Day
Emily Thomas
huffpost.com
It's tempting to say everyone in this contest is a loser -- no matter who finishes first. However, the organizers of China's first World AIDS Day Masturbation Contest say they're just celebrating HIV risk-free sexual freedom, according to Shanghaiist. The website dubbed the Dec. 1 contest a "Wankathon," though it should not be confused with San Francisco's annual Masturbate-a-thon. Sex toy manufacturer Aihuirun.com sponsored the event, but there was no full-frontal nudity.
The ten male participants wore masks and hid their genitals with orange buckets that would later reveal the fruits of their labor. To keep enthusiasm up for the contestants, scantily clad models danced around with sex toys and blow-up dolls, Shanghaiist reports.
The current World Record holder of the "Longest Time Spent Masturbating" is pornstar Sonny Nash, who pleasured himself for an impressive 10 hours and 10 minutes in May, 2012. |
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In the early stages at the couple's wedding announcement, Elizabeth recalls having to explain why she had a black eye
Wife killed abusive husband in self-defense only to discover 'he' was actually a woman wearing prosthetic penis
4 December 2012
When a woman killed her abusive husband out of self-defense, she found out that 'he' was actually a woman wearing a prosthetic penis.
Angelo Heddington and Elizabeth Rudavsky from Canada had a whirlwind romance, which was followed by a shotgun wedding after four months of dating, and then escalating domestic violence. But when a battered 27-year-old Elizabeth stabbed Angelo, 30, after he attacked her in 2003, it was the paramedics who discovered a prosthetic penis under 'his' clothes on the way to the hospital.
Shocking surprise: When Elizabeth Rudavsky (right) killed her abusive husband (left) out of self-defense, she found out that 'he' was actually a woman wearing a prosthetic penis
Elizabeth says on the Investigation Discovery program, Fatal Vows, which premieres December 13: 'I never saw nothin'. Things were dark.' Throughout their seven-month relationship, Angela had never been 'bare' in the light with Elizabeth, and always insisted on having sex in the dark, according to a police report. Angelo, born Angela, actually told his wife that a previous girlfriend had gotten angry and burned his genitals. 'I never passed judgment,' Elizabeth said.
According to the book Cruel and Unusual Idiots: Chronicles of Meanness and Stupidity, a former girlfriend of Angela told a reporter: 'Ang had soft hands, but she spit like a guy. The whole time you were talking to her, she'd have her hands in her pockets, playing with herself like she was a guy.'
The couple met while Angela was living at a Glencoe-area farm while recuperating from a back injury and Elizabeth was traveling to farms to sell dog tags. It wasn't long before Angela started beating Elizabeth, who said during the investigation that she genuinely loved her husband. Over seven months, Angela continued to hit Elizabeth, threatening her with guns and violating her with a metal pipe.
In the early stages, at the couple's wedding announcement, Elizabeth recalls: 'I had to explain to everyone how I could be so happy, getting married, when I had a black eye. But I knew how to pull the wool over people's eyes. It was one thing Ang taught me how to do.'
As a result of an investigation, a second-degree murder charge against Elizabeth was dropped when it was determined that she had been acting in self-defense when she killed Angela. Information from Angela's family painted a picture of a violent person who left her home near Chatham and had been pretending to be male since she was 14 years old.
Angela had both male and female lovers, however, and was apparently controlling and abusive with both. While pretending to be a man, Angela starved a male lover until he lost 99lbs. As Angelo, Angela had threatened to kill Elizabeth's family and also once beat her so badly that her lung collapsed. Her own weight fell from 200lbs to 130lbs.
Angela exercised 'food control' on Elizabeth, who was whipped with a horse crop, and beaten for 'not answering questions quickly enough, not cooking supper fast enough, not sitting up
straight and not acting like a lady,' Crown Attorney Paul Bailey said during the investigation.
The night Angela died, Elizabeth broke free from her abusive grip and and ran toward the door, grabbing a 12-inch butcher knife along the way. She stabbed Angela in the abdomen after being cornered at the door, which was blocked with a bicycle. 'In a case of clear self-defense, it is only proper to withdraw the charge. A murder has not been committed,' Mr Bailey said at the hearing.
George Flikweert, of the Chatham-Kent Police Service, said at the time: 'We all come across terrible cases of abuse on children and on spouses. But I've never in my career seen one as horrific in nature as this particular case.' Elizabeth's lawyer, Fletcher Dawson,added: 'It was as if she was a prisoner of war, and it was similar to the Stockholm syndrome.' |
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The Government Wants to Stop This Guy from Boning His Dog
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Making silicone soulmates
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11 Jan 2013
The Dollpark company in northern Germany is where men can have all their fantasies fulfilled - as long as they're not too fussy about having a partner with fascinating conversation, more than one facial expression, or a pulse.
Leeloo is a brunette. Her eyes might be a little on the blank side, and she will set you back between €5,500 and €6,000, but she's quiet and offers "almost total freedom of movement." She's also one of dozens of lovingly-sculpted silicone ladies that occupy a 250-square-metre warehouse in Sierksdorf, on Germany's Baltic coast.
It's a steep price, but as the Dollpark website says, Leeloo "puts almost no boundaries on your fantasies." Leeloo's creator and Dollpark owner is 44-year-old Michael Wendt, one of Germany's leading online purveyors of rubber and silicone dolls. Having bought the internet domain www.gummipuppen.de in 1998 for a piffling 380 German marks, he started out selling sex toys, before expanding into dolls. The lucrative firm now offers up to 500 different products, selling hundreds of dolls over his virtual counter every year. "Anyone interested in silicone dolls knows Dollpark," said Wendt proudly.
But what kind of people want a life-size fake woman as a companion? According to Wendt, it's not just men with niche fetishes. His theory is that his customers are looking to buy intimacy and companionship as well as sex. Some people, he points out, sit their plastic lady at the dining table when they have breakfast.
Wendt's conclusion is shared by Hamburg sex therapist Stephan Moschner, though he thinks there is more to it. He believes the men are also motivated by curiosity and the urge to try something new. As well as this, men are drawn by the way they can live out their sexual fantasies even if they don't have a real partner. "In this way, they can circumvent real intimacy and so avoid conflict with their partner when it comes to their sexual desires," said Moschner.
Wendt and his employees have also been making their own dolls since 2002, complete with perfectly formed eyebrows and lashes. To this end, the firm continually advertises for models, so that they can make their dolls as life-like as possible.
Wendt is so confident that he can create "Perfection in Silicone" - as the legend above the entrance to Dollpark warehouse puts it - he intends to expand his business into the medical education industry, and market silicone models for students - purely for the purposes of medical research, of course. |
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The man who is in love with INFLATABLES
he would marry his favourite… a dragon named Lila
Suzannah Hills
14 February 2013
Many people will be taking time out today to do something special for their loved one on Valentine's. But for one man, this means spending time with the 'love of his life' Lila - a blow-up yellow dragon. Mark, 20, has been addicted to his 15 inflatable pool toys for the past six years but claims to be in love with his favourite Lila.
Mark, from Redlands, California, sleeps with his collection of inflatables and even cooks food for them so they can sit down for dinner with him. His favourite is a yellow dragon that he has named Lila and he even sleeps with her lying on top of him.
Mark, who features in the TLC TV show My Strange Addiction, says he would even marry Lila because he loves her so much. He showers her with kisses and can be seen sitting on the couch stroking her during the programme.
Mark believes his addiction began at the age of 14 when he purchased a whale for his pool and turned to the inflatables for the affection he claims he never got from his mother. He now refuses to be separated from them for more than a day.
Mark says he loves the inflatables because they are 'soft and cuddly' and he can talk to them. Mark agreed to see a psychologist after his friend Josh and cousin Matt stepped in. After several sessions Mark is now interacting with more people but still has his inflatables at home.
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Amsterdam prostitute twins retire at 70 after 50 years and 355,000 men
14 Mar 2013
metro.co.uk
Twin sister pensioners have decided to retire as prostitutes after half a century in the sex trade, having slept with 355,000 men between them. Louise and Martine Fokkens, both 70, say they are finding it a ‘painful’ struggle to go on working in Amsterdam’s notorious ‘red light zone’.
They claim to be the oldest prostitutes in the Dutch city and last year starred in a documentary film named Meet The Fokkens. Mother-of-four Louise admitted, though, that her arthritis means some positions are now ‘too painful’ – while mother-of-three Martine complained about a drop in custom.
Only one elderly man addicted to his weekly S&M sessions remains a regular, she said. ‘I couldn’t give him up. He’s been coming to me for so long it’s like going to church on a Sunday,’ Martine added.
Brothels were legalised in the Netherlands in 2000 – but the sisters say this ‘has not improved prostitutes’ lives’. Martine said: ‘It is better for the pimps and the foreigners, but not for the Dutch girls.’ But the twins are confident their income from film rights will keep them solvent in the years of retirement ahead. |
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The Body Shocking Show
I wasn't sure whether to put this in here or the Body Art thread. It's a mixture of both really.
(you need to sign up to dailymotion to watch this, it's worth it - but be warned, you'll probably be hugging your nipples in horror!) |
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Porn addict has surgery to remove live EEL he inserted up his backside
10 Apr 2013
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A porn addict had to have emergency surgery to remove a live EEL from inside his body after he inserted it up his backside to copy an x-rated movie. The 39-year-old man rushed himself to A&E at a hospital in southern China when he couldn't get the creature out following the kinky stunt. The single man told stunned medics at hospital casualty unit in Shunde, Guangdong province: "Please, please help me. The eel is moving through my body."
Surgeons finally removed the 20 inch long Asian swamp eel - which weighed more than half a kilo - in the early hours of the morning after a lengthy treatment with drugs and medical probes. "The eel was simply trying to find it's way out," explained one of the medical team. It was still alive when we got it out but it died soon afterwards, which was probably a mercy. This was a particularly idiotic stunt and could have caused him a serious injury. Eels have small but very sharp teeth."
A police spokesman said: "We are aware of what happened and a 39-year-old man will be interviewed over alleged animal cruelty." |
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